Hope everyone had a great week.
I had an interesting moment this week. I realized that I am afraid of computers. Actually, to be honest, I’m afraid there’s a hidden ‘delete’ button somewhere that will activate when I am trying to do something else. Some kind of ‘control’, then press the ‘capital R’- spell my name – button that will erase everything I’ve been working on. I do not come by this fear lightly.
Years ago, I was working in a Jewish organization where 30 people were sitting in cubicles in one big room. It was my first day and I was setting up my work space (I like to personalize things and I get very sensitive to the objects in my surroundings). I noticed that when I pulled my chair closer to the keyboard, my foot banged on the computer box under my desk. I crawled under the desk to move the box closer to the wall and give myself more leg room. As I was moving the computer, a cable from the computer loosened – which I only realized when I heard that terrible noise of a droning hum powering down and then silence. The silence lasted a few seconds and then the whole room exploded as 30 people shouted: ‘WHAT HAPPENED?!?’
Luckily, I was still under my desk because people started moving quickly from computer to computer to see if everyone had lost power, and subsequently, all the documents they’d been working on. All 30 computers were dead.
My supervisor came into the room and saw me under my desk. She asked what I was doing and I explained that my knees needed more space. By this time I was standing up and I noticed the chaos in the room. People were scrambling and my supervisor asked about another worker and was told she went for a walk to calm down. I found out later, she had been working on a grant proposal online for 3 days and if she logged off, the site kicked her off without saving any of her work.
I also subsequently found out that all the computers on the floor were plugged into my computer, to save money on wiring each of them independently. Yes, it was a fire hazard. Yes, it was ignored until that moment. A hidden positive: now it would be fixed. However, it made no difference to me. I still owned that terrible moment. As I revisit this now, I can still taste the adrenaline.
So I am left with a fear of the hidden ‘button’ on a computer. I have concluded that I am not a technology person. I know it is an emotional conclusion and not a rational one, but it makes no difference. The conclusion about myself limits me, scares me and creates false boundaries. But I am in good company…Moses did that too.
When Moses meets God, at the Burning Bush, God tells Moses to go speak to Pharaoh and Moses replies by saying: ‘I am not a man of words’, he is not an ‘ish devarim’. The word ‘devarim’ means ‘words’ or ‘things’ or even ‘stuff’. We don’t know why Moses thinks of himself that way, but it proves to be an incredible limiting factor for him.
When he went out of the palace and saw an Egyptian beating a Hebrew slave, Moses strikes and kills him. A man of words might have commanded him to stop, especially considering Moses is part of the royal family. But because he does not see himself that way, he does not behave that way.
Later, Moses will climb Mt. Sinai to get the Torah. He brings down what will be known as the Ten Commandments. But in Hebrew, we call them the Ten Utterances (Aseret haDibrot), a form of the word ‘devarim’. The Ten Statements, ten of the things Moses said he couldn’t do. The man who is not a man of words will bring ten statements to the world that will change humanity forever.
And he still doesn’t see it.
Ultimately, Moses will stand in front of a rock that God commanded him to speak to, but he will hit it. He is still in Egypt in his mind, he is still facing the Egyptian bully. He refuses to accept that he has become a ‘man of words’ and so he cannot speak to the rock, he must hit it. Egypt must never enter Israel and so Moses will die in the desert.
Before he dies, Moses recites an entire book of the Torah: Devarim. We begin to read it this week. We call this book Deuteronomy, which in Greek means ‘Second Law’, because the Ten Commandments are recited again in this book. But in Hebrew it’s called Devarim, meaning ‘words’, or ‘the things in his head that will now gain expression’. Everything in this book speaks of Moses’ perspective and his processing of events. They are his memories and his fears and the book ends with a beautiful song he has composed.
The Midrash asks why this book is included in our Torah if it is the product of Moses, rather than dictated by God. The Sages respond that this book is offered by Moses as a prayer and God accepts it and answers: ‘Amen’.
In his last moments, Moses understands that his life had defined around a limitation he imposed and could not exceed. We all do the same thing to ourselves repeatedly and pray to find those moments of realization.
So, I decided that maybe I’ve been unfair to myself. Maybe I could be a technology person. I experimented with something safe…the TV remote control. I noticed my husband was watching tv, but then I noticed that although he was holding the remote control, there was a second remote in the other room. I picked up the second remote, quietly stood outside the room where my husband was and pressed the volume button until the sound muted. I watched his confusion as he reached for the remote next to him and increased the volume. I then decided to change the channel. His face was priceless as he went into the settings menu to try and figure out what was going on. I had never felt such power – this moment was magical (any married person knows what I mean).
By the fourth time, my husband discovered what I was doing because I was laughing too hard to keep quiet. I had crossed the threshold and saw the joy technology could bring to my life.
I still cringe when I remember that moment under my desk from years ago. I still have a moment of hesitation about hidden buttons on the computer, but I also accept that I am a person who can ultimately pull the plug and liberate myself.